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Why I’m Glad I Got Married Young
What I’ve learned after two and a half years as a wife
I have a confession to make. My guilty pleasure is The Bachelor. I know, I know. It’s trash television, but I still love it. I’ve been watching it for 10+ years, so I’ve seen my fair share of breakups, twists and of course, dramatic moments.
But something was different on this season of The Bachelor. For the first time, I was older than the majority of the contestants competing. I was even older than the Bachelor himself.
And while I know so much of reality TV is staged and not authentic, something about seeing a 23-year-old claim she was ready for marriage struck me as odd.
Only 23? I thought. How can she be ready for marriage? And then I remembered. I was only 24 when I got engaged. Probably only a few months older than these girls. Does that make me a hypocrite?
Not completely. I mean, these girls have only known the Bachelor for a few weeks, whereas I’d been dating my now-husband for over two years when we took the plunge.
But still. I wonder if my friends and family had the same judgments about me that I had for these girls.
Marriage has changed
Of course I had support. No one told me I wasn’t there for the right reasons or that I wasn’t…
